Of relationships and tribal differences......
I once had a grandmother God rest her soul , who always told me to make sure I marry from my tribe to save me from headache and pain. Being from western Uganda, and a muhima at that had crossed lands to come and get married to a muganda man. He loved her dearly but somehow she felt it would have been better if she had married her own tribe.
She always begged me to stay clear of northerners, easterners,basoga,baganda etc and white people. I've dated my own tribe and it never works out so how am I going to marry someone I can't date?
Dilemma.....my current man is from northern Uganda.don't get it twisted,I love him dearly and am sure the feelings are mutual. He however comes from a family where his mother would rather he marry a girl from that side. On top of that, my tribe is not her favorite. What do we do? Do we act like we don't care and things will be fine or do we both look for the "right" person?
My family on the other hand are as cool as ice. You can be with whoever you wanna be with as long as you're happy. How do we deal with this situation? Why has society continued to put pressure on its people? Is it about society happiness or personal fulfillment? Does it matter that am sad as along as society is happy?
Take for instance my Muslim friend sulaiti. She has got to get married to a fellow Muslim because she says she cannot change for a man. All the Muslim guys she dates are jerks. Once she gets a funny, caring and interesting Christian man, she starts to look for his faults so badly until she finds a problem with him.isn't she going to end up alone? Couldn't Mr.right be a Michael instead of Mohammed?
Does apio have to end up with ochen? Can't apio be happy with mutebi? Or tukashabaruhanga and egolet? You tell me.
I remain yours confused and baffled.
Julikat.
